hard4you0001

A basic principle to live by is to open your heart to 'what is', instead of insisting that life be a certain way. This idea is important because much of our internal strugle stems from our desire to control life, to insist that it be different than it actually is. But life isn't always (or even rarely is) the way we would like it to be - it is simply the way it is. The more we live for the moment, the greater will be our peace of mind. When we have preconceived ideas about the way life should be, they interfere with our opportunity to enjoy or learn from the present moment. This prevents us from honoring what we are or will go through, which may be an opportunity for great awakening. Rather than reacting to someone complaining or your partners disaproval, try opening your heart and accepting the moment for what it is. Make it okay that they aren't acting exactly the way you would like them to. Or if there's a guy your hoping to hit it off with ends up rejecting your advancement, see if you can say to yourself, 'Ah, rejection. He is obviously not my soul mate. when the time is right we'll meet, so I must keep trying.' You open your heart in these ways, not to pretend that you enjoy complaints, dissaproval, or failure, but to transcend them - to make it all right with you that life isn't performing the way you planned. Your perspective will deepen. When you fight that which you struggle with, life can be a battle. But when you surrender to the moment, accept what is and make it okay with you, more peacful feelings will begin to emerge. Live life for what it is, don't make excuses for anything you want to try. Remember this.... 'When we argue for our limitations... they become ours'! Don't be so critical, enjoy differences of all kind. Open your heart and mind and soon your life will be filled with enlightenment

mascular

a simple man with simple needs! why go around the bush if u will end with the same crap!!! Many of us spend most of our time thinking of the past, brooding on the bad experiences, dwelling on past laurels, or planning, looking forward to and worrying about the future. That was bad, I wish it didn't happen. I shouldn't have done that. That was good, wish I could have it again. Wow it was wonderful, let me live through it in my mind again and again. Something good is coming, can't wait. Once it comes, life would be better. Oh dear something bad is approaching, what should I do, how should I handle it. Things are fine now, will something go wrong soon? The list goes on. In doing all that, we are making the big mistake of losing what is the most important of them all - the present. What's past is over. We can't change it. Enjoy the sweet memories. Let the bad experiences be a valuable lesson to us. Learn from them. Plan for the future. But don't dwell too much on it. Life is unpredictable, and we have no idea what is going to happen next. When it comes, it comes - the future will take care of itself. What really matters is the present, because we are living it RIGHT NOW. Make the fullest use of it. As some people say, the past is history, the future is a mystery. And now? Well, it's a gift, that's why it's called the present.